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LUST FOR NORMAL SEX & SIMPLE EROTIC
What the media want to sell for years as a fulfilled sexuality, puts pairs often under enormous pressure. It is time to free itself from this pressure of the instrumental zed expectation by film, radio and TV. Subjugation, whips, and fetters: Floral sex seems almost extinct since the success of "Fifty Shades of Gray".
THE DESIRE FOR THE NORMAL SEX
In the film version of Hollywood, the initially timid and inexperienced Anastasia submits to the equally cruel and beautiful billionaire Christian Gray, who introduces Anastasia into the world of sadomasochistic play.
The complex theme has been implemented in full-time and has become a benchmark for fulfilling sex since its introduction into the broad mass market.
LESS SEX, LONGER RELATIONSHIP
There can be a queasy feeling: when it comes to showing a fulfilled sexual life, one should have already tried most known sexual practices - or at least as transfigured into the sheets sink as the film and Roman heroes always do care for. Tagein, tagaus - wherever you look, you see supposedly satisfied people, crisp bodies and conclude from it the perfect sex.
Of course, the reality is completely different: apart from leisure stress, work and household, there is often no time or even desire to be able to enjoy quite normal, extensive sex. Also, the erotic pretenders, which one is constantly pre-titled in the TV, usually falls away for lack of time.
Instead of having sex with each other, they nod in front of the couch. Many of you are wondering: is our relationship or sex life so boring? Is the sexual partner no longer sexually irritated? Hamburg sex researchers have found in a study that this is perfectly normal and has nothing to do with the erotic radiance of the partner. The longer a relationship lasts, the less sex couples have.
Newly-enamored couples have sex with each other, quite independently of their age, on average about 10 times a month. People in long-term relationships create "only" 4 times in the same time. It is astonishing that it does not matter whether the relationship is now 5 or 25 years. This is mainly due to the fact that sexuality changes in the natural way in the course of a relationship.
Behavior research is in agreement that, in the initial phase of a relationship, sex is used as a binding agent to weld people together. The longer a relationship then lasts, the more sex moves into the background - other things move into the focus. Frequently, the question arises as to whether that would have been the case.
FINDING WHAT IS FUN TOGETHER
Obviously, it must be clear that it has not been "that" yet. But it is now a fact that the sex life changes in the course of a relationship. The question of whether to try a new position is rather rare. More often, the topic revolves around possible erectile dysfunction and drowsiness and how to deal with it.
Happiness has those people who have a house doctor to whom they fully trust. It is then mainly to recognize that the sexuality of each individual partner is different from that which was present at the beginning of the relationship.
This also has advantages, as experts say that the sexuality in longer partnerships, which incidentally is called "individual sexuality", practice emotionally deeper sex. The partners find out together which kind of sex they fulfill and what dreams and wishes they want to try together.
Sexualtherapists warned however, to take in such phases too many currents from the outside - no models such as the already mentioned "Fifty Shades of Gray" or pornography should be added. This is, of course, easier said than done, because the sexual influences daily pound on every human being. Exactly this daily over-saturation by erotic content leads to that people get under emotional as well as psychical pressure.
The permanent comparison between himself and the alleged super-fans from the media can only be lost. And then sex should be fun? Unlikely.
Sex, which is fun, works with couples who feel comfortable with each other. These couples usually find their own sexuality. It is important that you talk to each other and honestly tell you what is going through your head. It is clear that this is not always easy for everyone.
Stupidly there is in our culture no adequate language for the sexual area, since there is no grown culture in this area. It must be clear that beautiful sex cannot fall from the sky. Eroticism cannot and will not break out spontaneously like a volcano, even if it is shown in the films always so. Good sex causes you to do something for it.
LOVE TO BE IMPERFECT
There are various means and methods to shape sex life in such a way that you can be satisfied with it. It is not always easy, but there is always a way.
Sex after the plan: waiting for you to be suddenly overwhelmed by pleasure and overwhelmed, is a forgiveness of love. Modern people plan and structure their entire day - so why not in sex? Of course, this is quite unromantic, but it is a fact that imperfect sex is far better than no sex at all.
Interpersonal conversations: forging erotic plans, while talking about sex, can already become the pilot light for one's own pleasure. Just as you do not have the same dish every day, sex is also only in bed, permanently boring and bland. To find new, unusual places can be the kick par excellence.
Taking time: While in movies, only a few minutes pass, until the counterparts sink into the pillows in perfect fulfillment, it is different in reality - and that is also good. The so-called "slow sex" is carried out with slow movements, but all the more intensively. The quality of sex is growing rapidly.
Be open to new things: inspiration from books and films does not necessarily have to be bad. It is important to make something good out of it. It does not have to be like shackles, whips and burning torches. For example, you can start by simply joining your eyes.
It is only important for all sexual games that both participants feel comfortable. In order for the sex to become good, it is important that even a no is accepted.
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