Marriage after shacking-up can leave you yearning for a deeper love connection with your husband. After all, lasting love is about connecting at your core. Below are five actions that you can implement to increase the love connection with your Baby Cakes.
Action 1: Turn off the T.V. According to Nielsen, the global leader in all things media, the average American spends 20% of their day watching television. Seriously! We often hear people saying how precious time is and to live each day to its fullest but are these the same people who are busy spending their evenings catching up on their shows via On Demand or TiVo? Time is precious, especially the time that you and your spouse spend in each other's presence. Free up some time each night doing just that, being in each other's presence and you can start by turning off the t.v.
Action 2: Add date night back into your relationship Did the movie nights stop prior to moving in together? How about after the wedding? We often think of dating as a way to woo the other person, to win their heart. Well, it is and marriage doesn't change that. Spending time together, just the two of you, allows you to connect. We think of dating as fun, exciting and a time to feel special. Give your spouse this same feeling throughout your married life. Make reservations at his fav restaurant and leave a hand written note in his car, inviting him out...on a date for this Friday night.
Action 3: Kiss your spouse when he leaves & comes home Touch. The gentle slide of a hand across your cheek can give you trembles down your spine. Put butterflies in your stomach. It also helps you feel emotionally connected to another. Remember when you were first dating and you wanted to hold hands at every chance? Recapture that moment today. Before your Honey walks out the door to hang out with the boys or to rush off to work or even to run a quick errand, grab him and give him a wet one and a great big hug and whisper, "I love you."
Action 4: Give of yourself Oh, what a selfish world we live in. We often are more concerned with how we feel, what we want, what we don't want and all things "ME." You have to make a conscious decision, sometimes daily, to shift the focus to your husband. We can get caught up in ourselves and what we're missing or even what we want from our marriage. Stop for a moment to give your spouse what he needs - you to be present. If you're not sure what that means, take the time one evening this week (while the t.v. is turned off) to ask how you can be more "present" in your relationship. It'll probably shock him but it'll also start the conversation.
Action 5: Schedule a weekly booty call Comedian Bill Bellamy coined the phrase "booty call" but it was more targeted towards singles getting their groove on. Well, Bill's a married man now and I bet he's still making booty calls...to his wife. Most shackers don't experience the non-stop mind-blowing sex that they thought they would have in a live-in situation. You may remember that thought when you were making the decision to shack-up. "Live-in equals all access sex." Yes, women think like that too. But, what a myth! Your sex life typically goes down hill in a shacking lifestyle. Now that you're married, make a decision to bring the sexy back into your bedroom. Start by writing it in on your weekly calendar. And, then make sure you keep that appointment!
These are just a few small things that you can do to show that you are committed to enhancing a life long love connection. Start implementing these actions today for an increased love connection with your husband.
Jennifer helps women in young marriages have more engaging, genuine and authentic relationships both personally and professionally by learning to focus on their most valuable asset, themselves. By drawing on her unique style, high energy and creative approach to maximizing relationships, Jennifer inspires women to live their best life now.
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