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IT IS OK TO MASTURBATE, even when you are in a relationship.

An estimated 95 percent of men and 70 percent of women masturbate. The frequency of masturbation doesn't seem to vary much from study to study. Masturbation has always been a primary form of sexual activity since before recorded history as it shows up in pictographs and other primitive art. That should be no surprise to parents or pet owners.

It was only in Victorian times and the early 20th century that masturbation was seen negatively.

Today the most commonly held view is that masturbation is part of a healthy sex life. Very seldom does it lead to a problem. Still, we therapists see those who overdo it and those that do it to the exclusion of other sexual activity. I have treated these cases and many sex addictions, but these are rare.

Mostly, masturbation is a positive activity.

Masturbation may help if:

- You and your partner desire different sexual frequency

- You don't know how to communicate your sexual needs

- You do not experience orgasm in partner sex

- You are with a partner who for some reason, such as illness, who finds sex difficult

- You don't get satisfied even after orgasm

- As a couple you'd like to explore new areas of arousal and orgasm

- You have no partner

- You are new to sexual activity and want to understand it better

The simplest forms of masturbation are generally manual stimulation. This is not just stimulation of the genitals, but also of other sensitive areas of the body. Almost all humans respond to some form of manual stimulation. Lubricants from water to specialized lotions and creams help.

If you want more information about masturbating there are plenty of books and websites that show and tell ways. Pornography is widely used, but there are serious concerns ranging from issues of exploitation and addictions. Moral concerns still exist in some subcultures, but generally masturbation is viewed as normal in most parts of the world.

The important part of this article is for you to know that relationships, no matter how well they meet your sexual needs, can be enhanced by masturbation. Mutual masturbation and individual masturbation can be part of any healthy couple's sex life.

Most people believe it's OK to masturbate when you're in a relationship, but there are still those that expect that their partner should meet all their sexual needs.

That is one myth that needs to be put to rest.

Steve Litt has been providing psychotherapy for over 40 years. Steve was named Therapist of the Year by the Colorado branch of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) for 2010. Steve provides original content at SMARTERrelationships.com. You can follow him on Twitter at @SteveLittAdvice.

Steve W Litt, LCSW

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Exercise all Your Muscle, Men.

Penis Exercises to Increase Your Penis Size

By Chess McDoogle

We know that tribes used to increase penis size through penis exercises. This was done as part of ritual and some of the pictures and early photo's reveal that very elongated size was achieved through performing these penis exercises.

Since then people have tried to increase penis size by trying to mimic these same effective penis exercises. But the success hasn't been all that great. Traditionally these exercises were performed very frequently for long periods of time. Most men don't have the time and commitment necessary to effectively increase penis size.

As a result various routines and exercise enlargement programs have been designed to solve this problem of time and commitment. It's taken some years, but there are now routines devised which only take around 10 minutes or less to perform. You still have to perform them almost every day (usually 5 days a week), but the results are very similar to that of the early tribes.

Usually these routines will consist of a few different techniques including stretches, kegel strengthening, and jelqing.

Stretches are self explanatory. They consist of gently stretching out the penis and usually maintaining the stretch for a few seconds before resting, and then repeating.

Kegel strengthening is more of an assistance technique which strengthens the pubococcygeus muscle. By strengthening this muscle you can improve your exercise technique, and also develop the ability to delay ejaculation as well.

Jelqing tends to be the main technique for enlarging. If there's only one exercise you are going to do, make it jelqing. But make sure you perform it correctly with proper warm up, cool down, and lubrication application. Jelqing is basically like performing repeated massaging motions to the penis. This leads to tissue rebuile, and overall size gains are the result.

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Spicing Up Your Position

Best Sexual Positions ~ Spicy Up the Woman on Her Back Position

By E.J. Davis

Are you tired of having your lover fall asleep on top of you after sex? Then it's time to introduce the best sexual positions into your love making and possibly even fire-up the intimacy between the sheets. Adding variety in sexual positions with the woman on her back can potentially lead to the most amazing sex and bring you the most incredible orgasm, if you know how.

First, spice up the woman on her back position by participating in the pumping, the gyrating and all that coital hip movement that comes with this sexual position. Lift your hips and meet him thrust for thrust. Experiment with different angles in this sexual position. This will allow for variance in depth of penetration, intensifying the sex. To get the best out of this sexual position, raise your knees up, bracing your feet on the bed or ground or wherever you are lying down, gyrate your hips as you bring your lover towards the pinnacles of sexual pleasure.

One of the best sexual positions to try during love making is to open your legs wide lifting them up. Open your legs as wide as you can in a letter V-shape and you'll see that this simple leg movement allows for even deeper penetration. The higher you can lift your legs up, the deeper your lover can penetrate you. For best results, embrace your lover with your legs or brace your feet on his butt and increasing the depth of his thrust.

The key to the best sexual position for the woman on her back is to prolong your orgasm by relaxing your vaginal muscles. Put your legs down alongside or underneath your lovers'. The shallower thrust with this position enables him to maintain a rock-hard erection and make the loving last for hours.

Most important of all, is to practice these sexual positions, it is essential to unlocking the secrets to sexual pleasure. By making your lovemaking technique supercharged, steamy and earth-shattering the last thing he'll do is fall sleep!

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Protect Your Relationship As A Woman

The word relationship is something to stirs up the heart when it is mentioned. It is what anybody will want to discuss and listen to. It is a friendship that two people cherish a lot. As a woman who is in a relationship with a man, you have to safeguard it and give it the maximum protections, because you have all it takes to do so. If you really and truthfully love your man, then there are things you must do to ensure you make it be how you desire it. This article shows the very important things to be done. Please read on!

It is necessary for a you as a woman to take you relationship very serious and show a genuine interest towards everything about it. When you put in your best interest, it gives you the best result. Make it part of your priority. Don`t neglect it and expect the man to be the one to show such concern. Don`t make the mistake of thinking that it doesn't really matter. Treasure your man. Value him so much. When you do so, you won't give any room for interference. As a woman you have the ability to organize things and put things the right order.

One thing that scares a man away from a woman is when she makes the relationship a do or die affair. Be very real and don't mount pressure on him to make sure things work out for you.

Learn to be soft minded and practical. Things tend to move normally and naturally when you are yourself. a man does not play or even joke with his ego and so, don't make him feel he is not worth the best from you. You can't manipulate him to get what you want. Give him the respect he deserves and show some appreciation when he does something for you. A man will always desire to gain that soft spot in a woman. Give him that and see him desire for more.

Knowing that relationships is a mechanical something that works with formulas and rules, then make him feel comfortable with you and take him as your closest friend. True friendship maintains a good and cordial relationship. Cherish him dearly and confined in him. This will give room for easy understanding of things around him. You don't have to be rigid in your treatments to him, but feel free to express your mind, thoughts, fears, joy, emotions and even your desires to him. You will create a good channel for communication.

Exclusive traits you have to do and take serious in your relationship is faithfulness and fidelity. Be sincere to him and with him. Make sure he trusts you. Don`t try to play smart because it will not pay you in a long while. Sow fidelity and reap happiness. When you are faithful to your man, your attention will be channeled towards him and this will make you put in your best to make it work. Know that you cannot serve two masters at the same time; one must surely suffer if you do so. Believe that god will crown your efforts with good success.I wish you a truest relationship as you do so.

Copyright, Ugomma Deborah Nwosu

Ugomma Deborah Nwosu is a trained Electrical/Electronics Engineer. A certified Microsoft Expert. She is also a motivational/Inspirational/Financial Speaker and Relationship Consultant who set her gaze lucidly and her wit sharply to issues that affects the economical, social and spiritual development of individuals; enabling them live a beautiful life in this wonderful world.

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